Keeping Max healthy and alive takes up a large portion of my time & energy. I feed him, I get him dressed, I bathe him, I take him to the toilet, I scratch him every time he itches, and I help him transfer from his wheelchair to go all around the house. I have been his primary caregiver for our whole relationship and I wouldn't have it any other way. All my life, I stumbled from thing to thing, trying to figure out who I was, and then I found and we fell in love. I'll leave you with these words from on Insta: One hundred times out of hundred, there is love. Does that would mean your own relationship would inevitably disintegrate? So don't you go turning the ladies away from him. And he would make someone really, really happy. He would definitely require care from a partner. He has more empathy, warmth and emotional intelligence than many people I know. Phil, I am mom to one really cute teen boy with intellectual and physical disabilities. Phil implicitly sent to the masses: You don't want to get into a relationship with a person with disabilities because it won't work out. He couldn't fathom that in the end, it's all about l-o-v-e. He couldn't seem to grasp that you can be disabled and be someone's soulmate. He didn't seem to understand that you can have physical challenges and still have a whole lot to contribute to a partnership. He insinuated that people with disabilities are burdens who suffocate a relationship. Phil's rejection of an entire segment of romantic relationships-during Cerebral Palsy Awareness Month, no less-is ableist, prejudiced and so narrow-minded. They created the hashtag #100outof100 for couples in interabled relationships, and people have posted on Instagram and Twitter from around the world.ĭr. Interabled couple Shane Burcaw and Hannah Aylward, who'd been approached by Dr Phil to be on the episode, took to YouTube to explain why they turned him down. I've searched all over the Internet, and can't seem to find a single source for that statistic. His words: "It won't work, 100 out of 100 times this won't work." A bit later he affirmed: "She can be your lover or she can be your caretaker but she can't be both." ( Here's the link to the clip from the show). Phil's assessment: he told the boyfriend that if his partner remained his caregiver, she would not be his girlfriend. The man, who is a quadriplegic, needs a fair amount of support. Phil stirred up a storm last week when he featured an interabled couple who were having relationship issues, which started when the woman became the man's full-time caretaker.